Marriage

It's always fun to remember the conversations of people's drunken stupor. Topic of the night (previous night): marriage. From the opinion of two divorced people, both male and female.

I belive marriage is a concept, not a signatured piece of paper. I don't think that I will ever marry again. If I meet someone and it's that important to them, maybe, but then I will just wonder what they want :)

If I am with someone and they say they want to spend the rest of their lives with someone: that is marriage. It is committment, respect, selflessness, giving, cherishing, trusting, communicating, loving to spend time together, wanting to spend time together, doing things you don't want to because your partner wants to and them doing the same thing in return. Marriage is LOVE in all senses of the word. To be in relationship a level above your dating "level" relationship where you really want to spend the rest of your life with that someone, that is marriage, to me.

So, I ask you, why does the state of Texas need to endorse it? If you want to share your committent in front of God and your family and friends, then do it - but what does the Texas state seal have anything to do with it?

Okay - so as I sit here, of course I talked about this with my current peers. Some good points were brought up. My friend, Shawn, brought up a good point. How, for woman it may be a bioglogical need to have a "protector", a rock, security to protect herself and her offspring. Good point.

Still, I take that point and I say, what does the woman do when she doesn't have a "protector"? She steps up to the plate and becomes a survivor (that's my opinion, of course). She steps up to the plate and provides, protects, guides, nurtures, etc. her offspring. So, why did she need the man?

I'm not saying woman don't need men - didn't mean to take this topic off on a tangent, but I am saying why do so many woman want to be "married"? Why can't we live together and care for each other at a level of marriage and be considered married? Why is this frowned upon by so many, people, cultures, religions? In the Bible itself, when Rachel is "bedded" by the man and they wake up and they are "married". Hmmm...so all they had to do was sleep together? Doesn't that contradict everything they teach us out of the Bible? Just a thought to ponder.

Anyhoo- nite nite :)